Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Big Families...

I read this on another blog and it is so true...

Why big families are easier:

Patience. I never have to teach patience. My children know that I can’t drop everything for them if I have a baby in my arms.

Work Ethic. My children have learned to work because there are always chores to do in a small house packed with little messy lunatics. And they all learn quickly that sometimes they have to clean up a mess even though they didn’t make it.

Humility. My children have learned it’s not always their turn. They’ve accepted they can’t always get their way because other people have to get their way sometimes. They’ve learned that some children are better at certain things than they are.

Foreign language skills. You can learn a lot of Spanish by watching ten years of Dora the Explorer that you just can’t pick up in two. And now with the Diego spin off I’m practically fluent.

Laughter. The children have learned to laugh at the insane non sequiturs of younger siblings. They’ve learned that laughing just feels better when seven people are doing it along with you.

Competition. Do I really need to go into this? Everything is a competition in big families. The children compete over who reads faster, who drinks their milk faster, who gets to the bathroom first…etc. Everything is a competition and they’re all keeping score.

Balance. The floor of the front room of my home is a minefield of toys and childhood paraphernalia. Just walking through the room requires great skill and balance. I’m absolutely convinced my two year old will be a favorite for Gold on the balance beam in the 2016 Olympics. (She might have to lay off the cookies a little but I’ll deal with that later.)

Life isn’t fair. Sometimes you just give it to the baby because you want a little quiet. Not all the time. But sometimes.Just say “No.” Being able to say “no” may be the most undervalued skill in this world. The need to be liked is pervasive. The need to be cool even more so. Having brothers and sisters teaches children to say “no” about 143 times a day. It’s a good skill.

Praying. They learn that nothing beats praying together as a family.Nature/Nurture. Having many children has taught me that nature has a lot more to do with who my kids are than nurture. This is helpful, especially when your children misbehave you don’t have to feel bad about it. Just say “Stupid nature!!!” and blame your spouse’s genes.

Namecalling. You can occasionally call your child by the wrong name and still not be considered a terrible parent. They know who you mean just from your tone. Sometimes if you need something done you can call the wrong name and someone will still show up. That helps.

Spying. My children have learned that they can’t get away with anything. I have spies who look a lot like them who are willing to drop the dime on them for anything. Even at school I’ve got a child in just about every grade. If they do something I’ll hear. That keeps them nervous. And I like keeping my kids a little nervous.

Friendship. The children have many friends. They’ve got girly friends, crying friends, fun loving friends, consoling friends, and crazy friends. And they all have the same last name. And they’ll be there forever for each other. No matter what.

Love. I think my children have learned to love because there are others around them to love and who love them. I honestly can think of no better way to teach children to love than siblings.


Marie said...

How true! I grew up in a big family. . . didn't like it, but now I see the value of growing up in a larger family. . . although I still think 13 kids is a little extreme!

Colin and Jill Canada said...

I totally agree with the patience part. My only child constantly thinks I should be with her every step of the day.

I am slowly but surely teaching her, it's not the case!

Siblings would help!


Shawna said...

LOVE IT! especially the keeping them a little nervous part.

The Drinkwaters said...

I grew up one of five kids, and the thing I remember the most is there was always someone around to play with, hang out with, or fight with ;) And as an adult now, it is still the same with my brothers!

That would be my wish for Sylvie, and hopefully we can provide that for her. I'm glad Lilah gets to experience all the love, fighting and laughing that comes with bigger families!

Mel said...

Hahaha - LOVE IT!!

Canada to China and back! said...

I love that Paige! How true! I was becoming nervous as my family expands from an odd number of 3 to now we are a really odd because we have more than double the norm! Hey can you email me I lost your email and I wanted to ask you a couple questions privately:0) my email is khmervyn@telus.net I have family here right now so it may not be until next week that I catch up with you again! Have a wonderful day!


Beth said...

Oh Paige! Those are great and some of them even made me think it would be a good idea - well OK, not for more than a millisecond. (God knows I'm not the person to do that - after all, he waited almost 8.5 years to bless us with Ava!) But I am glad Helena got the sister she's always wanted. I am an only and of course there were good things about it but you always think something different would be better:)
Thanks for sharing that it was great!