Monday, March 14, 2011
Update of Zoe's progress
Today, Zoe had many appointments. We started off seeing the audiologist, who did some hearing tests. Zoe's hearing is great and they see no issues. There is a bit of fluid in the ear.
We then saw a social worker, who just asked questions and asked if we had questions. I had nothing for her.
Then we saw the speech pathologist. She was awesome. I was so worried that Zoe would go in and not say a word to her, but with all those toys, Zoe talked non stop. She wants to see Zoe again in 3 months to access her language skills. She was impressed that she could speak in full english sentences and that she could pronounce some sounds that 3 year olds usually cannot. She does have trouble with her S's and her Th's. But she believes with some reminders at home, she will need very little therapy.
We then saw the ENT Doctor. He saw no issues with her ears and wasn't worried about the fluid. She will need to be checked every six months, just to make sure everything is healthy.
1. Zoe needs things to call her own. She will often pick up a toy or pick out a dress and come to me and say "My toy." "My dress." Not in a bossy or rude way, but just confirming that she does have things that belong to just her.
2. Zoe has no boundries. Even after four months home! She thinks that anything she sees is fair game and that she can touch it, hold it, play with it or try it out. She will find the ipad, wherever I have hidden it and use it to watch Dora. She has been banned from it, since I have found her smearing lotion on it and splashing it with water and dropping it numerous times. She will go into her siblings bedrooms and take whatever she wants... candy, nintendos, guitars, etc. If I leave gum out, she will eat it all, even if she has to scoot across the counter to reach it. She will play with the blinds. She will dig my lipgloss out of a basket and put it in her purse. She will sneak into the office and play on the computer.
3. Zoe still has some food issues. Not as much as when we first got her. But she will stuff crackers into her pants pockets, she will climb on a stool to grab fruit off the counter and eat it, she will go in the pantry to grab an orange or apple. If I say no to a snack (and I am not depriving her in any way -- she has many throughout the day!) she pouts and whines and begs. Thankfully, she still loves fruit above all else.
4. Zoe has no concept that I have to prepare food. I am sure the food just appeared to her in the orphanage, ready to eat. So when I enter the kitchen to make a meal, she runs to the chair and wants it now... even if it is sitting on the counter uncooked. Hence, more whining and pouting.
5. Zoe is still physically aggressive, usually only towards Lilah. She loves to grab her glasses and chuck them across the room. She will hit and push. Today, a little boy in a store came up to her and pushed her.... she cried like her world was ending! Why would he do this to her?! She has improved in this area a lot... no more biting, she knows a time out happens when she does this and seems to think twice about it.
6. Zoe is pretty easy to discipline. We just have to put her in a timeout and some times this makes her cry and sometimes, it just makes her pout. But as soon as we discuss what happened, she will say sorry mommy and give hugs and cuddles. She still continues to disobey the exact same rules over and over and over again. But she is sincerely sorry.
7. Zoe's language is coming along slowly. I think she can say more than she can understand. She will often look at me, not knowing what I am saying for the most part. But considering she was 3 1/2 years when we got her, I think she is doing really well! Her speech is very unclear, I understand more than anyone what she is saying, but even I can't always make out what she is trying to tell me. Her voice is very nasal. Her cries are very nasal. But even though she is usually still soft spoken, she CAN be very loud.
8. Zoe cannot seem to control herself in public. I believe that she (and the other children) were kept in one room and mostly made to watch tv in the orphange. So now, when we go out, especially to stores, she goes kind of crazy. In a very happy way, she runs and laughs and falls down.
These are all the same issues that we have had since day one, but we do see improvements in her everyday. She amazes us with her complete joy. She often runs around laughing for no reason, just because she is happy. I have never met a more joyful child!