Monday, May 9, 2011
Six months with Zoe
How we love our girl! These six months have gone so quickly it amazes me. I feel like all the adoption reading we did before we got both girls has everything backwards. At least in our case. Zoe attached immediately to me (Tim is still taking some work) and we wonder why she doesn't like men. We felt her orphanage care was lacking in many areas, and yet she is very affectionate and loving, so she must have had nannies who loved her. Zoe still has her tantrums, but for the most part the laying down on the floor and kicking things, or throwing things has stopped. She no longer bites her sister. She will still grab Lilah's glasses when angry and toss them across the room. Usually, Lilah is asking for it. Zoe doesn't really strike out unless provoked.
We still have some language and comprehension issues. She seems to understand what we are saying usually, if she doesn't understand she will repeat "what? what?" She doesn't seem to always get yes or no answers. If she asks for a snack and I say "in a little while", she immediately cries and whines and asks "why?", but if I say "Yes, in a little while" she is okay and waits. I can understand most of what Zoe says, but not all, partly because of speech issues with regards to both her palate and the pronunciation of sounds in the English language. Her speech therapist feels she shouldn't need too much help though.
We have one girl who is very bossy and controlling with her words, and Zoe who is very physically bossy. She is very dramatic and puts her hands on her hips, sticks her finger out and YELLS. You never know when she is going to lose it... but she will only take so much. The more comfortable that Zoe got in our home, the more testing she became. She gets out of her bed many times before falling asleep, to get toys and books, etc. She does handle discipline very well. She will cry when put in a time out, but it is short lived and then she apologizes and wants her hug. It did take awhile for her to understand how the time out worked, she would get off her step over and over and over, but she now will stay put.
Zoe eats everything! But no longer eats food she finds on the floor! She will stop eating when she is full and she loves all fruit and vegetables. We have found that she is lactose intolerant which isn't very pleasant. She will steal candy from her brother's rooms if she knows that it is there.
She also doesn't have many boundaries with things in the house. If they are out, it seems to be fair game. This is also improving slowly.
Zoe has a sweet personality. She is soft spoken, affectionate and loving. We have now completed our six month post placement with our social worker. The whole adoption experience with Zoe has been wonderful. She is a typical four year old girl and her issues (which are very few) are something we can completely understand the "why's" of and deal with accordingly.
I look forward to watching her grow and seeing how she thrives. We know she will!